Be Willing to Do the Work

Do you want healthy relationships? 

Of course you do!  Who doesn't?  

If you want healthy relationships, you gotta do the work.  Some people say, 'relationships are work' and while there is some truth to that.  The "work" in relationships has less to do with the other person, and more to do with YOU. 

Remember, you attract what you are.  So if you're attracting relationships that are toxic, draining, dissatisfying or otherwise bullshit; you gotta take a look in the mirror.  Cuz you, are the one who is creating that experience.  Not to say that the other person is not also a contributor.  BUT ... if they too are doing the work ... well ... then the both of you will likely create a much more desirable experience. 

Look at this way, if you are being your best self.  Living your life out loud.  Rooted in authenticity and just doing your thing in a really big way; you will attract someone who is doing the exact same thing.  Two people who doing their absolute best, will have a greater capacity to BE their best for each other.  

On the flip side, if you are living in a super low vibration ... meaning, you're not practicing self care, you're not setting boundaries for your time and energy; basically, you're bullshittin' your way through life.  If that's where you are, then guess what?? Someone doing the same exact thing is gonna bump right into you. 

Why??? That's just the way it is.  The Universe is set up to allow space for like things, people, experiences, etc. to collide.  When two people are on the same wavelength, vibration, flow, whatever you wanna call it; they will eventually connect.  When the timing is right. 

Don't get me wrong.  If you're bullshittin' your way through life, you're not probably not even looking to connect with anyone. Except of course, someone to share your misery.  Or, what many people do, when in this stage of life, is link up with other people in an equally low vibration, in order to create a distraction from actually doing the work to get their life right.

If that's you, don't trip.  You're not alone.  There is hope.  If you really want to start to do the work, and create some massive change in your life, hire a coach!! I know one.  She's pretty dope!  Just wrote a book in fact.  *insert shameless book plug*

Seriously though, if you are not experiencing blissful, supportive, loving, healthy, amazing relationships with everyone in your life, friends, family and lovers; then you may want to consider taking a closer look at how you're showing up.  Cuz it takes two to tango and two to tank.  

Focus on the relationships that are most important to you.  Take inventory of how it feels to be in them.  Are you happy?  Satisfied? or Just getting by?

You deserve to have the best of the best! No matter where you are. Whether you are living your best life.  Or if you are in transition to becoming your best self.  You gotta start somewhere.  The condition of your relationships with others is a good indication of how well you're living.  

If the condition is great, then you must be doing something right.  If not, you got some work to do.  Keep in mind, the "work" is ongoing.  The more progress you make, the better you feel.  The better feel, the better you live. 

Relationships can be work; but not hard work.  Take the time to do the internal work, so you can reap the external benefit.  The internal benefit is pretty awesome too!

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