Live on Your own Terms

If it’s not a “Hell Yes!” … it’s a “Hell Nah!”

I can not and will not sacrifice my sanity to succumb to the limitations of others. 

I can not and will not trade one set of shackles for another. 

I can not and will not earn my wealth on a plantation of any kind. 

I can not and will not allow the limited thinking of others to influence my greatness. 

I can not and will not dim my light to make space for others. 

I can not and will not reduce my luminosity to make others feel better. 

I can not and will not live my life on the terms of others. 

I will and do live my life on my own terms. 

You have to get to the point where you are so willing to advocate for yourself that you literally have to decide between a "hell yes" and a "hell nah" when it comes to making decisions for yourself.

Every moment, throughout your day and life, you are given the opportunity to make decisions. Some are simple and small like, whether or not to hit the snooze button on your alarm (which is also snoozing your LIFE by the way); or even some big decisions like whether to relocate to pursue a new relationship. 

Whatever the decision, big or small, what you choose will effect the course of your life. Either in a way that feels really positive and has an immediate benefit. Or a really jacked up result right away. Even in some cases, what starts of as a seemingly messed up, can easily set you up for making another decision that will get you right again. 

So don't be afraid of saying "HELL NAH" to some things every now and then. Actually, try saying it at least once a day. Before you find yourself getting caught into a spiral or habit of becoming a "yes person" who is also known as a "people pleaser" - test out this concept of saying "NO" every once in a while; pay attention to how it feels.

The truth is, if you are living your life on your own times, there are times when you will have to say, "No" or "Hell Nah!" to certain people, invitations, etc. in order to maintain your flow.  Your flow, your groove, your vibration, whatever you want to call it - you have to protect that.  You work really smart to create it.  So you cannot allow the limited thinking, beliefs, or low level actions of others to pull you out of it.  

Trust me, I like making other people happy; but not to the detriment of my own joy.  Folks have a tendency to ask, invite and literally reach and grab for my attention and energy.  There are times when I have overflow, and can give abundantly.  Other times, there's a lot of "Hell Nah" happening.  

Some people get their feelings hurt if I do not choose to say "Yes" or "Hell Yes" to their requests.  Other people just get it. Typically, people who are also living life by their own terms understand that value of TIME - and while it is an illusion in many ways, it is the most valuable "illusion" that we accept as truth.  TIME is my valuable asset.  The way I invest is determines the quality of my life.  

Be mindful of your time.  Be mindful of the spaces you place yourself in.  Be mindful of the people you share your space with.  Don't be afraid to ask yourself: "Self, is this a 'hell yes' or a 'hell no' situation?" - the funny thing is, we introduced this concept of "Maybe" as a way to try and avoid disappointing others.  The REALITY is, we are going to disappoint others when we are living an authentic life.  PERIOD.  

Feel free to disappoint some people today.  As long as you are not disappointing yourself in the process.  I'm not saying go ruin someone's day.  That would be lame.  What I am saying is, say YES to yourself always.  Even if it means saying NO to someone else.  

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